Shut Up

It's time for me to get back on my proverbial soapbox...sorry, it's been a while and I've been mulling some things over.

I think that sometimes the absolute best response to someone is simply "Shut up." Period.

Lately I've been involved in a few "I just thought I would be in a different place in life" sob story conversations with different people. Don't get me wrong...these are all great people. I love hanging out with them, working with them, talking with them, etc. It just seems like as of late the topic has been "Poor me, I thought I would be in a different place by now." Well...boo-frickin-hoo. Join the club.

I think that as humans, we're born with this gene that keeps us unsatisfied with our life, no matter the hand we're dealt. You make six figures one year but aren't creatively fulfilled...you have a great family but stay stressed out all of the time...you are happy with where your playing is but don't have enough work...and the list could go on ad infinitum.

You know what...I thought I would be in a different place myself by this point in life. Now, that's not saying that where I am isn't a great place, but I simply thought it would look different. As a matter of fact, I don't think I know of one single person that knew exactly how their life would look. So I guess we're all in the same boat.

What to do.

If you're unhappy with where you are, why don't you get about the business of changing that...instead of bemoaning the fact to all of your friends. Crying in your coffee while you're talking to a friend is a great way to vent, but it accomplishes absolutely nothing...except maybe some watery coffee and a friend that checks their watch every time you start talking.

So the next time you find yourself saying "I just thought it would look different at this point in life", do me a favor. Just shut up. Shut up and think about how you could maybe change things. Think about your ideal life. Find one small thing you can do each day to make your life the perfect one you've always wanted. It can be as simple as sending an email or signing up for a class. Doesn't have to be a big one...it just has to move you in the direction you want to go.

It all starts with shutting up though.

I'm sure this made you all feel warm and fuzzy inside...you can thank me later.